Awakening Our Primal Selves

Animals, Instinct & the Sacred Dance of Human Intimacy

Welcome to Tantra Tuesday: Animal Edition! 🐾

Today, we journey through the wild — not just of nature, but of our own inner worlds. Let’s talk about sex, instinct, intimacy, and devotion — through the lens of the animal kingdom… and through the stories we, as humans, choose to tell ourselves.

Now, everyone has their own kinks — the beauty is in discovering what truly works for you. They can change at any time, depending one where you are in life, at that given moment.

For me, I feel most alive when I’m dropped into my most primal, carnal, instinctual state. That moment when the mind shuts off… the world falls away… and all that exists is you, your partner, and the little piece of Heaven that you manifested.

In that state, you don’t need anything else — your body just knows. It responds to the pulse of your partner, the rhythm of the music, the candlelight. You become animal, spirit, and lover all at once.

The biting, the licking, the clawing… the rawness of it all. And then — the softness. The cuddles. The giggles that bubble up when someone makes a silly comment or misses a beat.

It's a journey, not a performance. One that can only happen when you let go and allow instinct to lead.

I rewatched The Matrix Reloaded recently — the first time since it originally came out — and wow… seeing it now, through adult eyes and years of lived experience, it hit so differently. One scene in particular stood out: the primal, tribal dance in Zion. It perfectly captures the way I feel during those raw, instinctual moments on the dance floor — whether at a party, a festival, or a drum circle. That same electric current flows into the bedroom.

This scene isn’t just a dance — it’s a reclamation. A gathering of souls who have unplugged from the Matrix and are remembering what it means to be alive. To be human. To be free. They're not governed by code or illusion — they are wild, ecstatic, and moving in rhythm with each other and the Earth. No masks, no programming — just sweat, skin, drums, breath.

When you awaken like this in movement, it's as if your animal instincts — the most authentic, raw, and unfiltered parts of your humanity — come alive. They pulse through your body, stripping away inhibition. You're not just dancing — you're communing. With yourself, with others, with the Earth. Every stomp of the feet, every twist of the spine, every howl into the crowd is a reminder of the raw primal being that you are. A reminder of your true essence, connected to nature, connected to all other species on this planet, and connected to the whole Universe. And as you move, that sacred connection only deepens.

The Animal Within Us

In the wild, intimacy is raw and instinctual. Animals mate for many reasons — survival, pleasure, dominance, bonding, or sheer biological drive. But not all animals are the same when it comes to sex and relationships.

Some animals, like penguins, wolves, beavers, and swans, practice long-term pair bonding. They raise their young together. They dance, nest, and return to each other season after season. There’s something undeniably romantic about it — devotion encoded into DNA.💗💗💗

Others, like bonobos and dolphins, have sex for play, peacekeeping, and connection. Their social structures embrace fluidity, touch, and frequent sexual exchange — not for reproduction, but for pleasure, bonding, and diplomacy. These guys are the true Party Animals! 🥳

Then there are cats… oh these cats! Get ready, it's kind of intense.

Female cats often experience intense — and yes, often painful — sensations during sex, due to the male’s barbed penis. These tiny backward-facing spines "pop out" once he’s inside, causing discomfort when he withdraws.

Biologists have a few theories about why this evolved. One suggests that the barbs help trigger ovulation by stimulating the female's reproductive tract, essentially increasing her chances of getting pregnant. Another theory is a bit more competitive — it proposes that the barbs may actually cause so much discomfort for the female, that she will not want to be with another male after him, giving the current suitor a better shot at fatherhood.

So it raises the question — are cats designed to hate sex? Or do they actually enjoy it so much, evolution had to throw in a little pain just to slow them down? Is this nature’s way of balancing wild pleasure with a dose of caution?

From Instinct to Intimacy: The Human Twist

We may carry primal instincts, but humans are not just flesh and hormones — we are storytellers of the soul.

We don’t just “mate.” We romanticize and write stories, songs and poetry about love. We dream of soulmates and twinflames. We grieve breakups and celebrate anniversaries. After being intimate with someone, sometimes we wonder:

• Does this mean something?

• Am I special to you?

• Are you mine, and am I yours?

  
  

In Tantra, sex is not just an act — it’s an energy exchange, a portal to the Divine. Our desire becomes a current that can awaken our spirit, break open our hearts, and help us return to the wholeness of ourselves.

But it also opens us to vulnerability, insecurity, and yearning.

Unlike animals, we don’t just want sex — we want to be seen, felt, cherished, and safe.

Polyamory, Monogamy & the Sacred Truth of Devotion

In the modern age, we’ve begun to question the traditional structures around love. Polyamory — the practice of loving multiple people honestly and consensually — is one such exploration.

I’ve witnessed it. I’ve dabbled in it. And I’ve seen the beauty of people loving freely, courageously, and without shame. There is a sort of freedom, liberation and sense of celebration about it. But I’ve also seen the pangs of jealousy - from myself, from past partners, and from others that are involved.

In many polyamorous circles, jealousy is often labeled as “toxic” or outdated — something we should evolve beyond. But I believe that jealousy isn’t something to be cast aside — it’s something to be listened to.

It tells us:

• I want to feel chosen.

• I want to feel safe.

• I want to know you’re truly here with me.

  
  

These aren’t weaknesses — they’re human longings. The desire to be chosen, to be held, to be deeply seen — these are not flaws, but echoes of our very nature. And whether we choose monogamy, polyamory, or something entirely our own, what makes love sacred is not the structure — but the intention, the presence, and the honesty behind it.

There’s a deep, almost ancient power in chosen loyalty. Not a loyalty rooted in fear, possession, or social expectation — but one that rises from the soul. A loyalty that says: I see the whole world, and still, I choose to return to you, because I see your soul, and I know that we will always have each other's backs. Again and again. In a world overflowing with distraction, novelty, and temptation, this kind of conscious return becomes radical.

It becomes a spiritual practice — like meditation, or fasting, or prayer. A devotion that carves us open, asks us to stay present through discomfort, and stretches the heart beyond ego. It humbles us. It refines us. It turns love into something more than desire — it turns it into alchemy.

Closing Reflection: What Makes It Sacred for You?

As we explore sex and intimacy this Tantra Tuesday, ask yourself:

• Do I feel more drawn to expansive love, or focused devotion?

• How does jealousy show up in me — and what is it really trying to say?

• What stories do I tell myself about love, worthiness, and connection?

• What would it feel like to be chosen — and to choose — with intention?

  
  

Whether you’re wild like the bonobo or loyal like the penguin, your path to intimacy is your own. Let it be sacred. Let it be honest. Let it be yours.

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With love from the wild side

xoxox