Fill Your Love Cup

Today, I focused on the first JEMM in the Lover Series, titled "Fill Your Love Cup." Both the book and the JEMM encourage you to envision yourself as a Cup or vessel—everything you take in either fills your Cup with love or depletes it. Many people rush into relationships without realizing their cups are empty, often seeking a partner to fill that void. When both cups are drained, the relationship can eventually crack under the pressure. In the early stages of such relationships, it may feel like both cups are overflowing with love and excitement—and that’s because they truly are! But once that exciting new phase starts to fade a bit, and reality settles in, your original cups start to show their cards.

I’ve experienced this feeling enough times to know that I need to step back and fill my own cup again. My goal is to be the best partner I can be, and that starts with discovering and honouring what fills my cup, while becoming whole and happy on my own. Anyone who enters my life after that will only add to the abundance I’ve already cultivated within myself. I have also loved so hard and so much in my life (at some point I felt super spoiled with love), that I'm okay with just focusing my energy into projects and building community. I have spent so much of my life in lover-mode, that right now, I know it needs to take a bit of a backseat in order for me to focus on these projects that I have been procrastinating on.

As I worked through the Creating Opulence book, I included a worksheet to help you track what you're filling your cup with each day. While it may feel tedious at first to log everything you do, eat, watch, and experience, this exercise is incredibly valuable. It gives you a clear visual of how your actions are either nourishing or draining you. If you find that the "toxic" column is filling up quickly, it might be time to take an honest look at your lifestyle and identify areas where you can cut out toxicity and make room for more of what truly fills you up.

Worksheet extracted from Creating Opulence

You are welcomed to start this activity today: whether you use the template above, or just take your notebook and create 2 columns, (Love & Toxicity). Start to jot down anything that you consume that you consider either Love or Toxicity. To simplify it, consider what GIVES you energy, and what DRAINS your energy. Sometimes, we overload on what DRAINS our energy, because of convenience or habit, not realizing that our energy is actually being drained. As you write it down during the day, and you start to notice that the Toxicity side is overshadowing the Love side, make the conscious decision to engage in more of the Love side.

To determine what fills your Cups and what drains it or what adds toxicity, here are some questions to reflect on:

What Fills Your Love Cup:

1. What activities, hobbies, or practices leave you feeling refreshed, joyful, and alive?

2. Who are the people in your life that uplift and inspire you? How do they show you love and support?

3. What self-care routines or rituals make you feel whole and nurtured?

4. What are the things you do just for yourself that bring you peace, satisfaction, or excitement?

5. When was the last time you felt truly loved and supported? What contributed to that feeling?

   
   

What Drains Your Love Cup:

1. What habits or routines leave you feeling depleted or unmotivated?

2. Are there relationships in your life that feel one-sided, toxic, or draining? How do they affect you?

3. What thoughts or beliefs about yourself prevent you from fully embracing love or joy?

4. Are there activities, commitments, or environments that consistently leave you feeling exhausted or overwhelmed?

5. When was the last time you felt emotionally drained? What do you think caused it?

   
   

To Balance the Scales:

1. What small changes could you make to prioritize activities or people that fill your Love Cup?

2. What boundaries could you set to protect your energy and prevent your Cup from being drained?

3. How do you know when your Love Cup is full, and what signs tell you it’s running low?

4. How can you cultivate a balance between giving love to others and ensuring your own Cup stays full?

5. If your Cup could speak, what would it ask for more of? What would it ask you to let go of?

   
   

As you move through your days, consciously filling your Love Cup, take pride in the time and energy you’re investing in becoming genuinely fulfilled within yourself. In doing so, you’re cultivating the foundation to be a balanced and supportive partner—one who adds love rather than seeks it to feel complete. The JEMM Fill Your Love Cup is designed to help you embody your full Lover-self, embracing the truth that love and abundance are always present when you choose to see them. And as you shift your perspective, that love begins to grow and overflow, radiating outward and positively transforming the world around you.

Thank you for reading this far, and I send you much love as you journey towards filling your cup with Love. You are the love the world is craving!

Much Love!