Post-Love Day Reflection

The Roles We Play in Love

Valentine’s Day has always been a sensitive time for me— and I promise, this will be the last time I bring up my ex for a while. I know it might seem like I’m not over him, but the truth is, I moved on from that relationship faster than I feel it deserved, given how deeply we loved each other and how profoundly it shaped my life. It’s only after years of distance and reflection that I’ve come to truly understand what I lost—and what I’ve missed.

We met on a beach in Cuba on Valentine’s Day, and four years later, under the full moon and a sky lit with over 20 shooting stars (true story!), he proposed to me on another beach in the Dominican Republic. For the seven years we were together, Valentine’s Day wasn’t just a holiday—it was our anniversary, a symbol of the magic that brought us together.

That’s why, since him, I’ve never been one to casually date or "hook up" on Valentine’s Day. Going out with someone who barely knows me just for the sake of the holiday has never been on my Bingo card. To me, this day has always meant more than just chocolates, flowers, and fancy dinners —it’s a reminder that magic exists, that the Universe orchestrates the most beautiful, serendipitous connections between lovers.

Since being with him, I’ve been blessed to experience the most magical connections with other men over the years—each one like a story pulled from the pages of a movie. The love I shared with my ex didn’t just shape my past; it opened my heart and eyes to the magic that exists in the world and within other people.

Loving him taught me how to love more deeply than I ever thought possible. It allowed me to see others in their best light—not just for who they were, but for who they could become. To see the Superman in every man I loved. And with each new connection, I found that love only expanded. Every partner I’ve loved has helped me love the next one even more.

Through love, we come to understand not only our capacity to love but also the role we play in relationships. Romantic partnerships, especially the ones built on trust and deep connection, serve as mirrors—they reveal who we are at our core, how we express love, and what we bring to the people around us.

When you truly love and trust someone, you naturally step deeper into your authenticity. You communicate more openly, take more risks, and explore new experiences with a sense of courage and curiosity. Love has a way of expanding us, making us feel more alive—not just in the relationship itself but in life as a whole.

This is where the JEMM: Know Your Role comes in. The way you love in a romantic partnership can reveal the role you instinctively take in all relationships. Are you the nurturer, the protector, the teacher, the dreamer? Are you the one who brings structure, or the one who brings adventure? Every relationship gives us insight into the roles we naturally embody, helping us understand how we contribute to the world around us.

If two souls are destined to meet, the Universe will conspire to bring them together. But what we often forget is that destiny doesn’t always follow a predictable script. We often get wrapped up in these big magical moments, when some of the most genuine and authentic love stories are the ones that build over time. Some lovers meet as children and grow together for a lifetime. Others find each other later in life, after years of growth and experience. The how and when don’t matter as much as the belief that every union has a purpose.

What truly matters is choice. If you are with a partner, choose them—every single day. Believe that the Universe brought you together for a reason. Your relationship isn’t just a coincidence; it’s an opportunity to create something beautiful together. Whether that’s in the children you raise, the life you build, the business you start, or simply the love you embody, your union holds meaning.

This ties back to the JEMM: Know Your Role—understanding that your role in a relationship isn’t just about receiving love, but about actively creating it. A divine union isn’t just about fate; it’s about the intention and energy you bring to it. Your attitude toward your partner and your relationship determines the depth of the magic you experience together.

Reflect & Write: Your Personal Love Story

Take a moment to reflect on the love of your life—whether you’re currently with them, have loved them in the past, or are waiting to meet them. Grab a journal and write about:

✨ The Beginning – How did you meet? What were the signs, synchronicities, or magical moments that brought you together?

✨ The Spark – What made you fall in love? What qualities in this person captured your heart?

✨ The Journey – How has your love evolved over time? What have you learned about yourself through this relationship?

✨ The Choice – If you are with your partner now, what do you choose about them every day? If you’re no longer together, what love lessons did they gift you?

This exercise is a beautiful way to honor your journey, deepen your appreciation, and remind yourself of the magic that love brings. ❤️

Love is more than just a fleeting feeling—it’s a choice, a journey, and a reflection of the magic within us. Whether you are celebrating with a partner, cherishing the love you once had, or holding space for the love you know is coming, trust that the Universe is always working in divine timing. The way two souls come together is never random; it is a masterpiece woven by fate, choice, and the lessons we are meant to learn. So honor the love in your life, embrace the role you play in it, and never stop believing in the magic that brought you together. ❤️✨

Here’s a track to inspire a new playlist, all about Love and Intimacy! Let this set the vibe for a night of sensual massage, play, and connection with your partner. I’ll be sharing some of my own playlists with you soon, so stay tuned!

Happy Weekend, Love Tribe! Enjoy every moment you can!