Preparing for Partnership

Transforming Red Flags Into Green Flags

In the final JEMM of the Lover's Series, we focus on a crucial aspect of relationships—identifying the red flags within ourselves and the ones we tend to attract. We often find that before we can step into a Power Partnership, a true Tantric union, we need to examine these flags and shift the patterns that have been holding us back.

Red flags are often signals of discomfort or misalignment. They show us where we need to heal, grow, and transform in order to show up as our best selves in relationships. But here's the truth: we don’t always recognize these flags for what they are, and sometimes we continue to attract the same patterns over and over again.

For me, one of my immediate red flags lies in how I feel physically. To be truly comfortable in my own skin, I need to address the ways in which I’ve been neglecting my health, my home environment, and my body’s energy flow. This is why I’m committing to a 30-day retreat experience—a retreat that will revamp my mind, body, and spirit, setting the stage for me to shed these physical red flags and welcome in the kind of transformation that will align me with the power partnership I desire.

This journey is about treating myself the same way I would treat a retreat guest: with care, compassion, and discipline. By focusing on health, movement, diet, and self-love, I will create the internal shifts that allow me to embrace my body fully, without judgment, and step into a space where I can connect with others from a place of strength and authenticity.

The first step is understanding my red flags. Right now, they are clearly physical. They manifest in my discomfort with how I feel in my body, my habits, and my environment. To be able to fully connect with someone else in a Power Partnership, I know I need to feel at home within myself. This is where the Back on Your Feet retreat comes in.

The physical work I will do—through stretching, healthy food, movement, and consistent care—will clear away the stagnant energy that has been holding me back. Just as a retreat guest would be guided through a process of self-care, healing, and empowerment, I’m creating that for myself. By taking responsibility for these red flags, I am preparing myself to show up in the most authentic, confident way possible, ready to meet another soul who is doing the same.

Once I complete this retreat and revamp my body and mind, I will be able to transform my red flags into green flags. These green flags represent the qualities I embody when I am aligned, strong, and comfortable in my own skin. They are the signs of a powerful, confident individual who is ready to build a partnership from a place of trust, love, and mutual respect.

As you read this, I encourage you to reflect on your own red flags. What patterns keep showing up in your relationships? Are they physical, emotional, or mental? What steps can you take today to shift those patterns and turn your red flags into green flags? Because when we take responsibility for our own transformation, we open ourselves up to the kind of partnership that will empower us both.

I have included a page from Creating Opulence to help you reflect on the red and green flags you are watching out for. By being radically honest with yourself will you find the willpower and determination to make the changes needed to turn those red flags green!

This worksheet offers just a glimpse into the powerful exercises found in Creating Opulence. The book will dive deeper into uncovering your patterns, shifting red flags into green ones, and manifesting the partnership you desire.

To counteract my own red flags, I will be adhering to this strict schedule as we enter the New Year of the Snake on Monday, February 3, 2025. Between now and then I will get this house ready, deep clean each room, reorganize, and focus on finishing up some personal projects.

Back on Your Feet Retreat Schedule

Morning Routine

5:00 AM: Wake up... Good Morning Pound! Food, water, litter. Tidy area.
5:15 AM: Morning rituals
5:30 AM: JEMM session (Journeyed Embodiment Movement Meditation).
6:15 AM: Workout (30-45 minutes of physical exercise).
7:30 AM: Shower and get ready for the day.
8:30 AM: Focused work on Opulence Vision projects.

Eating Window: 11:00 AM - 7:00 PM (Intermittent Fasting)

11:30 AM: Smoothie, Go for Walk.
1:00 PM: Lunch (whole foods-based meal).

Midday Routine

1:45 PM - 5:00 PM: Focused work, creative projects, chores, or errands.
5:30 PM: Dinner (vegan, whole foods-based meal).

Evening Routine

6:30 PM: Movement Flow session (dance/yoga/strength training).
7:30 PM - 9:00 PM: Relaxation, light work, studying or reading.
9:00 PM: Nighttime self-care routine (e.g., skincare, gratitude journaling).
10:00 PM: Prepare for bed, wind down.
10:30PM: Sleep.

Goal: To set up a personal retreat center in 2025

Last year, my plan was to travel the world in search of the best retreats and detox methods, but I’ve come to realize that true transformation begins at home. That’s why, this Lunar New Year, I’m committing to creating a sanctuary within myself and my living spaces. By cleansing and revitalizing my environment while nurturing my inner being, I’ll be setting a strong foundation for the journey ahead—ready to embrace the adventures and growth that await me later this year.

As you read this, I invite you to reflect on your own journey—whether you're preparing for a new partnership or seeking to strengthen the bonds in your current one. What areas of your life or environment need attention to create a foundation for deeper connection? Consider the ways you can nurture yourself first, as the energy we bring into our relationships often mirrors how we treat ourselves. Whether it's creating a space that feels like a sanctuary, addressing personal red flags, or cultivating habits that align with your highest self, every small step brings you closer to the partnership you desire or the deeper connection you seek with your current partner. Transformation begins within, and your commitment to that process is a beautiful act of love for both yourself and those you hold close.

Let that inner Lover shine bright! Your energy transforms the world!

Love One Always!!